It Ain’t Easy…But Worth It

Father’s Day Moment from “god chronicles…the collection”

“Then I said to you, “Do not be terrified; do not be afraid of them. The LORD your God, who is going before you, will fight for you, as he did for you in Egypt, before your very eyes, and in the desert. There you saw how the LORD your God carried you, as a father carries his son, all the way you went until you reached this place.” –Deuteronomy 1:29-31

Father’s Day is Sunday and I am wishing love, peace and guidance to all fathers.  It is not easy being a father.  How, as a mother, would I know this?  I have had the pleasure as well as the sadness of watching fathers of all kinds in various roles.  I have observed the father of a child in the home, the father who is separated or divorced who sees the child when the mother feels like sharing time with the estranged husband, the pastor over his flock is like a father to his children or the elder men who look after the community children.  There are some supervisors who handle their employees as if they were his children.  There are first-time fathers who are afraid of the responsibility of being a new dad.  Fathers, you are not alone in your journey of raising a child or children.

I have realized that a father is needed in rearing a son.  A mother can raise a boy but there are some things a mother just cannot teach a boy and we, as mothers, must not let our arrogance say otherwise.  God is with mothers in doing the best that we can and many mothers have raised sons on their own successfully.  Every now and then there are those sons who slip through the cracks; they find themselves making wrong choices, they give in to the street culture because they see no future, they degrade women because in their estimation it makes them feel more like a man, or they berate their mothers trying to feel more superior.  Fathers are needed for daughters too, but as a single mother with a son, I find the need to focus on the male to male relationship.  Johann Schiller said, “It is not flesh and blood but the heart which makes us fathers and sons.”  One of the most difficult things that I have seen for some men is fathering sons that are not their own flesh and blood.  If we consider ourselves Christians, followers of Christ, then there should not be a problem about flesh and blood.  Father’s, I must remind you that you are spiritual beings, made in the image and likeness of God.  When those little boys look up at you, they see no wrong.  What they do see is strength, love, a role model and they also see an image of God.  So, it is vital that you, as father, see the same in the child.  Father’s, it ain’t easy but it is worth it.

Luke 11:11-13 reminds fathers how they are to provide for their children.  “Which of you fathers, if your son asks for a fish, will give him a snake instead?  Or if he asks for an egg, will give him a scorpion?  If you then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give the Holy Spirit to those who ask him!”  If God does this for His children, why Father’s, would you not do the same for your children?  No, it ain’t easy but it is worth it.  My brothers, there are young men out there who need your guidance, your love and your encouragement.  Some of those young men who are in need are in their 20’s, 30’s even in their 40’s because they did not receive male intervention when they were young.  Maybe the male intervention they received was neglectful or abusive.  It is never too late to put a man on the path.  God will fight for you, holding you up as you hold up another.  Where is your faith fathers?  The word of God says that it is impossible to please God without faith.

My prayer for fathers is that they reach out, go the extra mile, release their fears and decide to raise boys to be men.  I pray that men who do not have sons or any children decide to reach out to a boy or young man and teach him the way to go, so that he will not depart from it.  Show them that God is with them, show them that they have a future and teach them that when success does not come one way, they can try other ways.  We are a universal family, a village, in need of a future.  No, life is never easy but, trust me, it is definitely worth it.